You’re having the engagement experience of your dreams to the one person you can’t live without! Enjoy that feeling and never let it go. It’s not long though before some major planning needs to begin. If you can work together to set up a realistic wedding budget that will work for both of you it will bode well for your future together.
We’ve all seen those reality T.V. programs where one half of the couple seems to be on a different planet than the other. Fabio simply can’t live without arriving at the reception in a helicopter or Rapunzel NEEDS orchids that only bloom for one week of the year in the high cliffs of Gibraltar. Planning and talking about expectations is important at this stage. Love is certainly the key but keeping an eye on the big picture of how you want to start the rest of your life financially doesn’t hurt.
Do you want a large elaborate wedding or a smaller intimate affair for a few friends and family? Be honest and then be practical and look into exactly how much things will cost. Representing the true you doesn’t have to be expensive. Your guests will remember your heart felt vows long after that orchid from Gibraltar has faded away.
Will your parents be helping out? It’s never too early to find out. Sitting down with family on both sides and determining how much help can be expected might be a little difficult but you’ll be glad you did when you start to input actual numbers in your budget. You know your parents better than anyone. Is it realistic to ask them for anything? Would they prefer you ask them alone or with your fiancé present? Money can be a really delicate matter to discuss. Be polite but clear. You could say something like…“We’re sitting down to make our wedding budget and were wondering if you would be able to contribute?” Lots of hugs are in order no matter what the answer. It’s not an easy topic!
Are you a couple that already has most everything you need to set up a home together? If so cash wedding gifts can help pay for the wedding and Eventastic can be invaluable in letting your guests know subtly that money would be appreciated in lieu of gifts. In the Guest Funding section of your wedding event website you can even let them know specifically what you’ll be using the dollars for. ie wedding expenses, a down payment on a home, home reno, honeymoon, honeymoon excursions etc. People may even give a little more when they know what the gift will be used toward!
Good luck and remember that the work you put into this first budget together will be a firm foundation for your happy lives to come!